I’ve decided to dismantle this blog.
Why? I just don’t have enough time to update it.
My interests have also shifted since starting it, so if I make time for another blog, it won’t be about online dating. I had fun working for a paper with a local dating site for three years, but I think it’s time to move on.
I’d like to thank the 1000 or so unique visitors I’ve received since starting it. Also, to everyone whose emailed me, you’ve made it interesting. If you need advice, I’d suggest you check out geeksdreamgirl.com.
Good luck!
I’ve decided to dismantle this blog.
Why? I just don’t have enough time to update it.
My interests have also shifted since starting it, so if I make time for another blog, it won’t be about online dating. I had fun working for a paper with a local dating site for three years, but I think it’s time to move on.
I’d like to thank the 1000 or so unique visitors I’ve received since starting it. Also, to everyone whose emailed me, you’ve made it interesting. If you need advice, I’d suggest you check out geeksdreamgirl.com.
Good luck!
Teeth are one of those universally hot physical traits—unlike putting a plate in your lip or tattooing your forehead.
Crazy how simple that is—smiling = friendliness. But it’s true. And mysteriously, when you appear friendly, people are more likely to want to be your friend, and you definitely want female “friends.”
I know you don’t think you do—but I promise—you do.
When women see a picture of a guy, they imagine what it would be like if he were looking at them, and if you are frowning, they imagine what it would feel like to piss you off.
And anything that accomplishes this is worth the effort. Have you ever seen a serial killer sporting a friendly non-creepy grin? (Because I know we’ve all met hundreds of serial killers right?) Well, I haven’t. The keyword is “friendly,” not “ha ha, I just killed 200 people and made omelettes out of them.”
Stay tuned for a post on “How Not To Look Like a Serial Killer Even If You Are.”
Just like investing, online dating is about diversification. Sign up for several of these sites, and you’ll always have a woman waiting in the wings.
Pros: Easy to use, and there are millions of members.
Cons: Not free
Pros: It’s free, the members are smart and hot-tech-geeks.
Cons: Not as many members as match.com
Pros: Free
Cons: It can feel a little bit like Craigslist personals at times.
Pros: They use science to match you up with your anthropological match, or say they claim.
Cons: Expensive
Pros: If you are looking for a relationship, and you want a site that does all of the work for you, this is the one.
Cons: This site is expensive and it takes forever to fill out their questionairre.
If I had a nickel for every time someone wrote, “I am trustworthy, down-to-earth and laid-back” in their profile, I’d be rich enough to buy everyone I know an Angelina-Jolie-plastic-surgery makeover (not that I the need the help of course). These adjectives have been overused to the point that they now mean nothing and are just a waste of page space.
Endless lists—the soundtrack of your life, your favorite foods, your favorite TV shows—hardly define you. By all means, mention your favorite bands, but don’t let any list take up more than a couple lines. I’ve seen profiles where the only thing written in the “About Me” section was a list of bands. Would you really disqualify someone based on the fact that their soundtrack includes Beyonce and yours KISS?
Often people get so immersed in writing about themselves, by the time they get to the end, they’ve completely forgotten to mention what they are looking for in a partner—this is a big mistake. You end up looking like you either aren’t that picky (i.e., you’re desperate) or like you’re completely self-absorbed and don’t want to waste precious screen space on anyone but yourself and your quirky interests—either way, I hear the click of a mouse.
Make sure to mention your deal breakers, but know the difference between a deal breaker and a preference. A deal breaker is not wanting to date a cannibal (and can someone tell me, is that picture for real?)—this would definitely end the relationship at least three times a day, maybe five if you count snacks.
A preference is wanting to date someone who is 5′9—if the woman of your dreams shows up and she’s 5’4, you aren’t going to turn her away, you’d just prefer that she be taller. Now, if she also shows up with a human femur in her mouth, once again, deal-breaker.
