1. It proves you have teeth.
Teeth are one of those universally hot physical traits—unlike putting a plate in your lip or tattooing your forehead.
2. It makes you appear friendly.
Crazy how simple that is—smiling = friendliness. But it’s true. And mysteriously, when you appear friendly, people are more likely to want to be your friend,  and you definitely want female “friends.”
3. You look hotter when you smile.
I know you don’t think you do—but I promise—you do.
4. Women will think you are smiling at them.
When women see a picture of a guy, …

Just like investing, online dating is about diversification. Sign up for several of these sites, and you’ll always have a woman waiting in the wings.
Sign up for these sites first:
Match.com
Pros: Easy to use, and there are millions of members.
Cons: Not free
OKcupid.com
Pros: It’s free, the members are smart and hot-tech-geeks.
Cons: Not as many members as match.com
Plentyoffish.com
Pros: Free
Cons: It can feel a little bit like Craigslist personals at times.
Other sites to try
Chemistry.com
Pros: They use science to match you up with your anthropological match, or say they claim.
Cons: Expensive
EHarmony
Pros: If you are looking …

Make sure to mention your deal breakers, but know the difference between a deal breaker and a preference. A deal breaker is not wanting to date a cannibal (and can someone tell me, is that picture for real?)—this would definitely end the relationship at least three times a day, maybe five if you count snacks.
A preference is wanting to date someone who is 5′9—if the woman of your dreams shows up and she’s 5’4, you aren’t going to turn her away, you’d just prefer that she be taller. Now, if …

How can you compete if you don’t even know what the competition is doing? Men today especially need to compete to grab a woman’s attention online—if she’s even remotely attractive, she’s inundated with dozens of emails every day. Figure out what other men are doing wrong, and let them be the error in the trial-and-error of online dating.

How do you spy on men without your profile showing up in their “who’s viewed me” page? Create a fake profile. That’s right, create a fake profile of a woman without a picture and do a search for all of the men in your age bracket. Women are already doing this to spy on other women–we are naturally very competitive and we want to know what Sally and Betty and Frieda are doing so that we can do it better.

Ask yourself, what are other men saying (or not saying) in their profile essays? If you were a woman, would you run the other way after looking

I just got back from a reality and documentary conference
in Santa Monica–three days full of producers pitching their “amazing”
works of art to major network executives. The one thing the network
executives kept driving home was how important it is to illustrate
rather than just describe something.
Due to the nature of most online dating sites, instead of video
footage you will have to illustrate your points using effectively
chosen photographs and text. For example, you mention that you love to
travel, well, now is the time to upload those pictures of you
traveling on a camel in …

I’m just kidding about including a picture of your prized Farrah Fawcett poster (unless you are a woman, then you’ll score some major points with the men here.)
The point is: You don’t always have to be in your profile photos–if done right, you can give people a sense of who you are by taking pictures of objects that are important to you.
Here are some ideas: your dog Milton, an amazing view of the brick wall outside your New York apartment, your collection of Cream records, your first surf-board, your ‘67 …

After running The Stranger’s Lovelab and Lustlab online dating and kinky dating sites for over three years, I have met hundreds of members and one thing that never ceases to amaze me is how much better online daters are in person. I know that this statement runs counter to what you’ve heard about people commonly misrepresenting themselves online.
While there are people out there who post pictures of themselves as a shaggy-haired virile 24-year-old, while they sit at their computer as a matured and shiny-headed 40-something, my experience is that this …